Self Worth

A motivitional guru pulls out a five hundred rupee note, in a meeting with his disciples, and hold it up for all to see.

He just asked a simple question. “How much is this worth?”

“Five Hundred rupees!” the crowd yelled in unison.

“Right,” said the speaker.

He then took the note and crumpled it into a ball and asked “How much is it worth now?”

“Five Hundred rupees!” screamed the audience.

He then threw the note on the ground, stamped all over it and picked up the note and asked one more time: “And how much is it worth now?”

“Five Hundred rupees!” was the response.

“I want you to remember this,” said the speaker.

“Just because someone crumples it, or stamps on it, the value of the note does not diminish.
We should all be like the five hundred rupee note.
In our lives, there will be times when we feel crushed, stamped over, beaten. But never let your self-worth diminish.
Just because someone chose to crush you – that doesn’t change your worth one bit!
Don’t allow your self-worth to diminish because someone says something nasty or does something dirty to you.”


Awestruck & Lusting For You .. (Two Poems)

Awe struck

Awe struck,
I was left.
Shut ..,
smut ..,
scuttlebutt ..,
hard luck,
dead duck .. !

Lusting For You ..

Your chin,
like an apple ..
waiting for the first bite .. !

Wet lips fluttering ..
but do not speak with words,
Index finger to it, shhhhhhh .. !

Tongues thrusting
probing inside ..,
tasting the passion .. !

A sumptuous dessert,
Can’t wait for another bite just,
lusting for you .. !

The Unconditional Love … !

I read this story somewhere, I don’t know … just posting it here … for it touches the heart so easily!

Once upon a time, a man punished his five-year-old daughter for using up the families only roll of expensive gold wrapping paper before Christmas.

Money was tight, so he became even more upset when on Christmas eve, he saw that the child had used the expensive gold paper to decorate a large shoe-box she had put under the Christmas tree.

nevertheless, the next morning the little girl, filled with excitement, brought the gift box to her father and said, ” This is for you, Daddy!”

As he opened the box, the father was embarrassed by his earlier over-reaction, now regretting how he had punished her.

But when he opened the shoe-box, he found it was empty and again his anger flared up. “Don’t you know young lady …,” He said harshly, “when you give someone a present there is supposed to be something inside the package!”

The little girl looked up at him with sad tears rolling down the cheeks and whispered with emotionally choked voice, “Daddy, it is not empty … I blew kisses into it until it was all full.”

The father was crushed. He fell on his knees and put his arms around his precious little one. he begged her to forgive him for his unnecessary anger.

It is said, an accident took away the life of the child only a short time later. The father kept this little gold box by his bed for all the years of his life. Whenever he was discouraged or faced difficult problems, he would open the box take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of this beautiful child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each of us human beings have been given this invisible golden box filled with unconditional love, affection and kisses from our children, families, friends and God.

So, you too just open your golden box and feel the love … because, there is no more precious possession anyone could hold!

When money talks … !

A crusty old man walks into a bank & says to clerk, “I wanna open a f**king savings account.”

The astonished woman replies, “I beg your pardon sir, but that kind of language is not tolerated here.”
She goes to the bank manager to complain.
Manager agrees such foul language can’t be accepted.
They both return to the window & ask the old geezer, “Sir, what seems to be the problem here?”
Old man: “There is no f**king problem, I just won $200 million bucks in the f**king lottery & I want to put my f**king money in this f**king bank of yours.”
Manager: “I see, And is this bitch giving u a f**king hard time sir?
Moral of the story:When money talks, nobody checks the Language or Grammar…!
How amazing is this word “F**K” … it has even replaced the word “GOD” as the most used from the day-to-day vocabulary.
Let us see Osho the great trying to unravel some of its mysteries…!

Are Online Relationships Superficial .. ?

I am feeling a bit down these days .. may be because I have been posted to a new place of duty that does not have good connectivity with outside world and joining this new place was bit of a shock for me for my last duty station had broadband internet and 3G phone facilities available. Pertinent to mention here, folks, I am working with defence force of the country and the job profile includes a three-yearly transfer to a new location. But , wait a minute .. why am I sulking now? I joined this service with full knowledge of this fact! May be, I just am a bit confused right now.

One of the reason may also be being away from my ‘net-friends.’ No, I am not a very net-savvy person and large part of initial few years of my Facebook membership I was actually dormant there. I still don’t have close to 5000 friends there .. most of the people there are known to me personally also. I am not able to regularly comment on their postings or do one of my own there. Why only FB, let’s take this blog site itself. I created this site back in 2008, then remained dormant here for about six months then started writing on diverse topics .. irregularly!

It happens most of the time .. whenever I start writing I either get drifted into areas that are not related to my main topic or, loose interest midway. One may take refuse behind some fancy words like ‘writer’s block’ but, deep inside the guilt of letting your readers down remains. That reminds me I am yet to post an article here and it is June already! Sooo Soorry ..! I know most of you have been through this situation and have come out triumphant so, if you can share your magic formula with me … I’ll be indebted.

Again .., drifting away from the topic!

Coming back to the question .. “Are online relationships superficial?”

A word though .., Online Relationships don’t necessarily mean dating or matrimonial kind of relationships only. I mean purely social kind of relationships .. like those in your friend list on FB. This question came to my mind after I saw a lot of people doing regular trimming of their friend list on Facebook. Isn’t it insensitive on our part ..? We are able to remove them because we don’t really know them well and the relationship does not affect us because it does not have deep roots. I wonder if we could remove them had they been known to us in ‘Off- Net Life’. then why do we include them in our friend list at all? Attractive face ..? A mutual friend in your friend list ..?? Opposite gender ..???

Think about it ..

[to be continued]

Myths And Legends Of Nagaland


It is often assumed that the rationale of people’s activities, the myths and customs of a society can be traced in the concept they have about the universe around them. It usually attempts to advance understanding of the way people or the society relate to the various entities of the universe around them, inside or outside of their body, animate or inanimate and the way they perceive their action – benevolent or malevolent, and their relative position in the hierarchy – conceptualized as instrument for forecasting or divination.

The effects of five main primal elements viz, Either, Air, Fire, Water and Earth can be seen so beautifully intertwined in the myths and customs, the folklores and the folk arts of every society that these appear just natural to them. A Naga way of life is always full of struggles- even in the contemporary times. And this struggle for existence is amply reflected not only in the socio-political fabric of Nagaland but also in the multifaceted art manifestations- be it visual art form like- dance form or folk song or creative arts like weaving and handicrafts.

In this article, the entire flow of the cultural milieu of the Nagaland, particularly the art and craft forms, is presented in a sectionalized format which is tried to be integrated by weaving together the following micro-themes of myths and legends into a cohesive holistic story.


(Story about Origin and Identity)

As per the myth, the Nagas unlike other groups of the region came from the rock- a symbolic metaphor for the sturdy people as they are.

Historically, the Nagas were not known by the names of the tribes they are today, rather by the name of a group of villages or ‘KHEL’. After the 1816 invasion of Assam by Myanmar, the area along with the Assam came under the rule of Myanmar. But from 1826 onwards, through the East India Company initially and by 1892 directly also, all of the modern day Nagaland except Tuensang district, came under the British rule.

Originally, of the Indo-Mongoloid race, the fourteen major naga tribes are the Angami, Ao, Chakhesang, Chang, Khemungan, Konyak, Lotha, Phom, Pochury, Rengma, Sangtam, Sema, Yimchungar, and Zeliang. The Chakhesangs are further subdivided into Chakri, Khezha and Sangtam. Each tribe has its own specific language and culture. There is no caste system but each of the naga tribes is divided into as many as twenty clans – in fact, bigger the tribe, more is the number of clans.

Nagas have different stories about their origin – but most of them point towards their origin from hill or rock. The Angamis, Semas, Rengmas and the Lothas subscribe to the KHEZA-KHONOMA legend. According to this legend, in a village named KENDMA, there was a huge stone slab that had magical properties. Grains and farm-produce spread over it for drying in morning used to get doubled in quantity by evening. The three sons of the old couple, that owned it, used it by rotation. One day there was a quarrel between the sons regarding whose turn it was. The couple fearing blood-shed, set the stone on fire, which as a result got cracked. The spirit contained within the stone escaped and the stone lost its magical properties. The sons thereafter left the village to bring the spirit back in different directions but never returned back and became the forefathers of the Angami, the Sema and the Lotha tribes.

According to another legend, subscribed by the western Angamis, the first man evolved from a lake called ‘THEMIAKELKUZIE’ near Khonoma village. The Rengmas believe that until recently they and Lothas formed one tribe. The Aos and the Phoms trace their origin to the LUNGTEROK (Six Stones) on the Chongliemdi hill.

The whole life of an average naga revolves around the hills and rocks and after death also practice in vogue till early twentieth century was to give them Stone-Urn burial and placing megalithic menhirs.


The Angamis traditionally build a fireplace with three stones. Before building a new house also, the man of the house builds an inglenook. When the construction of a house has only thatching left to complete, the fire is brought from the house of a KIKA KEPFUMA i.e., a man, who has performed the LESU ritual and thus has earned a right to put horns on his home – earning thus a higher social status. If there is no person in the clan of the house-builder, the fire is brought from the house of any person, none of whose children has died. This fire is considered sacred and thought to carry good luck from the person whose house it is brought, to the person having the new house. Owner of the new house bears a ceremonial dress and carries a spear during this ritual. In the fireplace only wood is burnt and if possible it is not allowed getting out. Even now in tribal villages, it is considered a serious crime to put a man’s fire out.

In Angami tribe the culmination of marriage ceremony is denoted by construction of a fireplace. On the third day of marriage the bridegroom sends three stones to the bride for construction of the hearth at their new place of residence. Then, both the groom and bride go to forest to collect firewood. The firewood collected by them only is burnt first in their new house signifying the start of the conjugal life for the new couple. There also exists a notion of pure and impure fire in every tribe of the Nagaland and so does the superstitions associated with it.

At childbirth, the mother is kept separate from rest of the household and a separate hearth is built for her in the same room as the general hearth. This is still practised among the non-Christian Angamis. The building of a separate hearth relates more to the liminality of the status of mother and the polluting effect which the process of giving birth may have on the household hearth.

At the time of an illness, especially an infectious one, fire was burnt in the door-way to ward off the spirit of illness.




shcSpontaneous human combustion (SHC) is the alleged burning of a person’s body completely or partially without any apparent, identifiable reason and/or external source of ignition. The combustion may vary in severity from as mild as simple burns and blisters to the skin to a complete incineration of the body.


SHC was first documented in early texts as the Bible, but, scientifically speaking, these accounts are too old and often second hand to be seen as reliable evidence.

Over the past 300 years, there have been more than 200 reports of persons burning to a crisp for no apparent reason.

In 1673 for the first time Frenchman Jonas DuPont published a collection of cases of SHC in the form of a book called “De Incendiis Corporis Humani Spontaneis” after encountering records of the Nicole Millet case, in which a man was acquitted of the murder of his wife when the court was convinced that she had been killed by spontaneous combustion. Millet, a hard-drinking Parisian was found reduced to ashes in her straw bed, leaving just her skull and finger bones. The straw matting was only slightly damaged. DuPont’s book on this strange subject brought it out of the realm of folkloric rumour and into the popular public imagination.SHC02

April 9, 1744, in Ipswich England, 60 year old alcoholic Grace Pett, was found on the floor by her daughter in a state of  “a log of wood consumed by a fire, without apparent flame.” Nearby clothing was undamaged in this case.

Then many authors started putting such stories in their books. One such author was Captain Marryat who, in his novel “Jacob Faithful”, borrowed details from a report in the Times of London of 1832 to describe the death of his lead character’s mother, who is reduced to “a sort of unctuous pitchey cinder.”

Twenty years later, in 1852, Charles Dickens used Spontaneous Human Combustion to kill off a character named Krook in his novel “Bleak House”.

George Henry Lewes, philosopher and critic, declared that SHC was impossible, and derided Dickens’ work as perpetuating an uneducated superstition. Dickens then responded to this statement in the preface of the 2nd edition of his work, making it quite clear that he had researched the subject and knew of about thirty cases of SHC. The details of Krook’s death in Bleak House were directly modelled on the details of the death of the Countess Cornelia de Bandi Cesenate by this extraordinary means; the only other case that Dickens actually cites details from is the Nicole Millet account that inspired DuPont’s book about 100 years earlier.

On July 2, 1951 the Mary Reeser case found the public interest in Spontaneous Human Combustion. She was found reduced to a pile of ashes, a skull, and a completely undamaged left foot in her apartment in St. Petersburg, Florida.

On May 18, 1957, Anna Martin, 68, of West Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, was found incinerated, leaving only her shoes and a portion of her torso. The medical examiner estimated that temperatures must have reached 1,700 to 2,000 degrees, yet newspapers two feet away were found intact.

On December 5, 1966, the ashes of Dr. J. Irving Bentley, 92, of Coudersport, Pennsylvania, were discovered by a meter reader apparently ignited while he was in the bathroom and burned a 1 by 1.5 metre hole through the flooring, with only a portion of one leg remaining intact. Nearby paint on the bathroom wall was untouched.

In 1944 Peter Jones, survived this experience and reported that there was no sensation of heat nor sighting of flames. He just saw smoke. He stated that he felt no pain.


Spontaneous Human Combustion is not a natural phenomenon. There are many theories put forward to explain this bizarre phenomenon – two most prominent of which are – the non-spontaneous “wick effect” fire, and the rare discharge called “static flash fires”. Although scientifically it can be shown that the human body contains enough energy stores in the form of fat and other tissues to consume it completely, in normal circumstances bodies will not sustain a flame on their own.


Many Spontaneous Human Combustion victims were chronic alcoholics. But experiments in the 19th century demonstrated that flesh impregnated with alcohol will not burn with the intense heat associated with Spontaneous Human Combustion.


Many victims were overweight but a few were lean and thin also. It was proposed then that body fat stores could have lead to spontaneous combustion.


It was also taken as a sign from God, as divine punishment.


Electrical fields that exist within the human body might be capable of ‘short circuiting’ somehow, that some sort of atomic chain reaction could generate tremendous internal heat. Build-up of static electricity was also proposed as one of the hypotheses for triggering spontaneous combustion of human beings. Similarly, an explosive combination of chemicals formed inside the digestive system – due to poor diet was also considered as a possible cause.

No satisfactory explanation of Spontaneous Human Combustion has yet come to be accepted as full proof reason.


The body is normally more severely burned than one that seen after a normal fire. The burns are not distributed evenly over the body; the extremities are usually untouched by fire, whereas the torso usually suffers severe burning. It suggests temperatures of above 2000 to 3000 degree Fahrenheit occurring suddenly in human torso.

In some cases the torso is completely destroyed, the bones being reduced completely to ash.

In some, small portions of the body (an arm, a foot, maybe the head) may remain unburned.

Objects immediately associated with the body are charred but the fire never spread away from the body. SHC victims have been seen burnt up in bed without the sheets catching fire, clothing worn is often barely singed, and flammable materials only inches away remain untouched.

A greasy soot deposit covers the ceiling and walls, usually stopping three to four feet above the floor.

Objects above this may show signs of heat damage (melted candles, cracked mirrors, etc.)


All reported cases have occurred indoors. Some events of Spontaneous Human Combustion were witnessed but some were not. The victims were always alone for a long period of time. Witnesses who were nearby (in adjacent rooms) report never hearing any sounds, such as cries of pain or calls for assistance.

In the witnessed combustions – people are actually seen by witnesses to explode into flame; most commonly. Here the witnesses agree that there was no possible source of ignition and/or that the flames were seen to erupt directly from the victim’s skin. Unfortunately, most of the known cases of this type are poorly documented and basically unconfirmed. Sometimes there are no flames seen by the witness.

Non-fatal cases – Unfortunately, the victims of these events generally have no better idea of what happened to them than do the investigators; but the advantage to this grouping is that a survivor can confirm if an event had a simple explanation or not. Thus, there are far fewer cases of Spontaneous Human Combustion with survivors that can be explained away by sceptics without a second look.

Spontaneous Human Combustion is till date an unsolved mystery.